Here are five signs a long
distance relationship probably isn’t right for you.
You believe long distance
relationships never work out.
It’s absolutely essential that
both partners have faith in each other and their bond. If you’re the type of
person who believes, deep down, that having a partner who’s far away means your
relationship is doomed, you should seriously reconsider ever getting involved
in long distance romance. Take a moment
to reflect on whether you have faith it’ll work. If you honestly believe it
won’t due to distance, that belief will likely be a self-fulfilling
prophecy.
You aren’t a strong verbal
communicator.
With many miles in between you
and your partner, communication becomes incredibly important. You don’t have
the same luxury of nonverbal cues like couples who see each other every day. You’re
drawn together by your words more than significant others who often cuddle on a
couch in silence while watching TV.
Without strong communication through phone
calls, Skype conversations, e-mails, and online messengers, chances are your
relationship will struggle. If verbal communication isn’t one of your
strengths, you might want to think twice before getting into a relationship
with someone who is far away.
You get jealous easily.
A common concern with having a
partner who is far away is that the distance makes it easier for him or her to
cheat. For that reason, long distance relationships require a lot of trust. If you
feel it’s in your nature to be jealous, being with someone long distance could
put you through a lot of emotional turmoil.
This is especially true if you
don’t have the utmost confidence in the person you’re with. Unless you fully trust
him or her, there’s a good chance jealousy will eat away at the relationship
quickly.
You are broke.
All the travel that comes with
these types of relationships gets expensive, even if you’re only a few cities
away. While couples who are close can cut corners if they need to, couples who
are far apart usually require more funds to sustain the relationship, even if
they’re really frugal about what they decide to do when they’re together.
This
is especially true if airfare needs to enter into the picture. If you know that
you both don’t have enough disposable income to visit each other regularly,
think about whether you want to enter into the hardship of knowing you can rarely
see someone you care about a lot.
You aren’t very busy.
If you find that you often rely
on your significant other to make up the bulk of your social life, long
distance relationships are probably not for you. Many people who do well with long
distance partners manage to keep themselves busy; both people have new events
to share with their partner, and they’re also occupied enough not to feel very
lonely.
Of course, they miss their boyfriend or girlfriend, but they’re
socially active enough to enjoy their life even though their significant other
isn’t always there in person. On the contrary, a person whose life revolves
around contact with his or her partner can eventually develop resentment because
distance tends to make the partner less accessible.
However, if it’s in your nature to respond poorly to all the things that come with long distance relationships, you should think carefully before getting into one. Even though you want to be with someone badly, there is a chance it still might not work because you’re not suited to have many miles between you and the one you love.
