Breaking up is difficult, and
it’s even worse when you still want to be with your ex. While some couples do
manage to rekindle their romance, there is also a chance that your former significant other doesn’t want you back, however hurtful that may feel. Usually, people will exhibit signs that show the relationship is over in their eyes. Before
trying to get back a former flame, you need to figure out whether this person
would even be open to dating you again.
Your ex probably doesn’t want you
back if he or she:
1. Tries
to cut off all ties. This is one of the most obvious signs. If you never hear
from your ex, not even when you’ve tried to make contact, that person is likely
trying to move on from the situation. Some people may be tempted to read into
cutting ties as an act that, somehow, is actually a sign your ex is still yearning
for you. While there may be odd cases where people’s actions are wildly
different from their intentions, you should take the sudden distance for what
it is: someone taking steps to be less close to you than she or she once was.
2. Responds
to you with less urgency. Think about how reliably your ex got back to you when
he or she was your partner. If the time between e-mails, texts, and phone calls
is much more drawn out now, you’re getting a clear sign that you’re no longer a
priority. You should also consider the methods used to get in touch with you.
If lengthy phone conversations were a staple of your past, but now you’re only
getting brief texts or e-mails, it’s a sign your ex wants to keep things more
impersonal than they once were.
3. Only
communicates about professional and financial matters. Sometimes couples who
have been together for a long time have many entanglements that don’t just
vanish once the relationship is over. They may own property, for example, or
perhaps even share a business. In these cases, it makes sense that your ex
would reach out promptly and courteously about these matters. However, if your
ex stops the conversation once it turns personal, he or she probably doesn’t
want you back.
4. Avoids
topics related to your past. Some people may be comfortable keeping an ex
around as a friend, but chances are they’ll keep the conversations light and
platonic. If your ex squirms whenever you try to bring up your prior romantic
relationship, or immediately changes the subject, that’s a sign he or she is
trying to get beyond that part of the past.
5. Has
a new love interest. Rebounding does happen, where forlorn lovers rush into the
arms of the first person who shows them affection. However, if your ex is with
someone with whom they appear happy, you have to face the facts: you’re not
going to get your ex back. That person has moved on; it’s probably best for you
to try to do the same.
Moving on from a relationship can
be difficult, especially when you’re still into your ex. It’s emotionally
draining, though, to remain invested in someone who doesn’t want you back. If
your former partner is showing signs that they are moving on, you should try to do the same.
