Emotions can be difficult to
pinpoint. They’re intangible, ever-changing, and highly subjective. They’re
also everywhere. Emotions infuse many people’s responses to events, particularly
difficult ones. They link one individual to another, in both platonic and
romantic relationships. Although emotions are a staple of most people’s lives,
though in varying quantities, it can often feel like words fail when trying to
convey the most intense of them.
It’s little wonder, then, that
emotional problems can be the root of turmoil in many romantic relationships. One
partner may be quick to turn to intense emotion in most circumstances, while
the other is more inclined to reflect on situations calmly. One may allow an
outburst of emotion to catapult him or her to action, while his or her partner would
rather engage in mental preparation before doing anything.
As for the relationship itself,
it is not uncommon to encounter a couple where one person requires a lot of
explicit emotional expression, while his or her significant other requires very
little. So, one partner may need long feeling-centered conversations to feel
emotional satisfaction. The other may find those kinds of conversations
unnecessary and, at times, even annoying. Conflicting needs about these
subjective factors can contribute to endless arguments and frustration.
There are a couple ways to get
your emotionally compatibility back on track. The simplest and most organic way
is probably to bond through shared experiences. Make an effort to spend quality
time together, even when your schedules are hectic. If you allow an endless
string of outside obligations to prevent you from sharing meaningful time with
the person you love, you’re paving the way for a failed relationship. Even the
most demanding of schedules should not prohibit you from sneaking away a few
minutes for your partner.
Another way is to tackle the
issue head on. Start by mutually recognizing the importance of emotional
fulfillment. Even people who would characterize themselves as mostly logical
have some type of emotional needs. Next, lay out exactly what your needs are.
You can even write them down. Then, share them with each other. You may be
surprised at how different your perceived needs are. After this insight into your
significant other’s mind and heart, take action. Respond to his or her needs,
and praise him or her when they do the same for you.
